Have you ever wondered why a person doesn’t feel loved even though you love them with all that you have? Have you ever tried to fathom why you don’t feel loved even though the other person claims to be madly in love with you? Have you witnessed love in your relation changing like seasons with gradual fading effects ? Have you sensed a gap between the two of you which neither your silence nor your words seem to be filling? The one key to all these symptoms is ‘Communicating in the Right Language’
There have been lots said and written about how expression & communication of love & feelings is important in relationships. With all the help available in books, TV shows & the net (those wonderful articles likes ‘ 101 ways of ********* ‘ or “ 50 different ways to __________ “) why is effective communication in relationships still a secret? Even after attending varieties of workshops on relationships & communication, and collating wonderful ideas why is it people find it impossible to implement them once back home?
The reason: I came across this quote and I believe that it says it all : "After all, when you come right down to it, how many people speak the same language even when they speak the same language?"
All of us learn one particular language due to the family we belong and the upbringing we have which is like the primary or native language. But as we grow up, we learn many other languages to make ourselves comfortable in our society, our education, our career and so on. When it boils down to self, it’s always the native language that’s comforting, but when you want to comfort somebody else, then comes into picture the secondary language. Imagine if you were only communicating in your own language and the same is the case with the person you are communicating with, how limited the talking would be. You might even get down to sign language or just a few sounds.
Its similar in case of love & relationships. Two different people, in the rarest of occasions, can speak the same language of love and emotions. The number of ways to express your feelings & emotions within a language of love might be innumerable, but what’s important is you need to speak and understand the same language as that of your partner. Isn’t that easy, that one of the ways to preserve the love in your relationship, is to put in some efforts and just learn another language !!!
